Bride planning to avoid pre-wedding stress

D-Day coordination: a guide for a stress-free bride before the wedding

A guide to help brides-to-be stay calm and enjoy their special day.

On the day of your wedding is undoubtedly one of the the most important moments of your life, but it can also be one of the most stressful. Pre-marital stress is common to all those who make a commitment.

Between the final preparations, the guests to welcome and the emotions that are running high, it's easy to feel exceeded. This is why a coordination is essential to ensure that everything runs smoothly on the big day.

Day-of coordination is essential to ensure that your wedding goes as smoothly and happily as possible. Every bride and groom deserves to experience stress-free big daysurrounded by joy and serenity.

To achieve this ideal, a meticulous preparation and impeccable organization are essential. In this guide, we'll explore key strategies to help you minimize pre-wedding stress, focusing on planning, delegation and relaxation.


Bride stressed on her wedding day
Bride stressed on her wedding day


Meticulous planning and organization

The first step in ensuring stress-free wedding day is a detailed planning. Start by drawing up a schedule of preparations, including every small task to be completed. Use online planning tools or apps specifically designed for weddings, which allow you to keep an overview and track your progress. Make sure you set realistic deadlines for every element, from cake tastings to dress fittings to confirming suppliers.

It is also crucial to allow time for the unexpected. Allocate time buffers in your schedule to handle small emergencies without panicking. In addition, prepare a contact list of all your service providers, including their emergency telephone numbers, and keep it with you or entrust it to someone you trust.


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How to deal with pre-wedding stress: Shades Waves gives you some pointers.

Here's a guide to help brides-to-be keep calm and enjoy of their special day, pre-wedding stress:

  1. Upstream planning The key to successful wedding-day coordination is careful planning in advance. Create a detailed schedule for the day, including all important appointments, such as hairstyles, make-up sessions and photos. Be sure to share this schedule with your suppliers, immediate family and coordination team, so that everyone is on the same page.
  2. Support team Surround yourself with a trusted team to help coordinate the day's activities. This could include close friends, family members or wedding professionals, such as a wedding planner. wedding planner or a wedding day coordinator. These people can take care of the logistical details while you concentrate on yourself and the celebration ahead.
  3. Stay flexible Even with careful planning, it's important to remain flexible on the wedding day. Delays or unforeseen circumstances may arise, and it's essential to approach them with calm and grace. Keep in mind that the main objective is to celebrate your love with your loved ones, and that small hiccups shouldn't spoil the occasion.
  4. Communicate clearly Communication is the key to successful coordination. Make sure your suppliers, family members and coordination team know exactly what you expect of them. If you have specific requests or concerns, don't hesitate to share them openly and calmly.
  5. Take some time for yourself Between greetings from guests and photo shoots, it's easy for the bride to feel overwhelmed on the wedding day. Be sure to plan quiet moments for yourself, whether it's a few moments before the ceremony to meditate and breathe deeply, or a break during the reception to reconnect with your new spouse. These precious moments will allow you to refocus and make the most of every moment.


A stress-free bride before the wedding


Ensure smooth execution on D-day

On the wedding day, everything you've planned falls into place. To ensure that everything runs smoothly and to avoid unnecessary stress, precise coordination is essential. Here are a few additional strategies to ensure a smooth and memorable day.

Draw up a detailed schedule

Create a detailed schedule for the day, including precise times for each major event (ceremony, reception, dinner, dance, etc.). This schedule should be shared with all suppliers, family members involved, and the bridal party several days before the event. Make sure everyone understands their role and the timings to be respected.

Appoint a D-Day coordinator

Whether it's a professional or a trusted friend, having someone in charge of overseeing the progress of the big day is crucial to minimizing pre-wedding stress. This person will be your point of contact for suppliers and will make sure that the schedule is respected. He or she will also be able to deal with any unforeseen problems without having to disturb you while you enjoy your day.


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Prepare an emergency kit

A wedding-day emergency kit can be a real lifesaver. It should contain items such as hairpins, tweezers, thread and needle, bandages, make-up for touch-ups, and other small supplies that might be needed in case of a minor mishap and help avoid unnecessary pre-wedding stress!

Stain-removing wipes for an unfortunate stain on your wedding dress are essential for this great day!

Entrust this kit to a trusted person who will be easily accessible throughout the day.


10 simple tips for managing pre-wedding stress on the big day!

Even with impeccable planning, the wedding day can be stressful. Here are ten tips to help you stay zen and enjoy your big day to the full:

1. Sleep well the night before Make sure you get a good night's sleep before the wedding. Avoid over-stimulating activities the night before, and try relaxation techniques such as meditation or a soothing herbal tea.

2. Eat a nutritious breakfast Start the day with a balanced breakfast that will give you energy without weighing you down. Include protein, fruit and wholegrain cereals.

3. Establish a moment of calm : Set aside a quiet moment before the festivities. Whether it's for a short meditation, a few deep breaths or simply to isolate yourself, this moment of calm can help you center your energies.

4. Hydration Stay hydrated all day long. Not only does water help maintain your energy, it's also essential for keeping your skin beautiful.

5. Entrust your phone Delegate the management of your phone to someone you trust. This will save you the stress of constant calls and messages, and keep you in the moment.

6. Have a plan B for the weather If your wedding includes outdoor activities, make sure you have a back-up plan in case of bad weather. Knowing that everything is under control whatever the weather conditions can greatly reduce stress.

7. Wear comfortable shoes Choose elegant yet comfortable shoes, and consider a spare pair for the reception. Being comfortable will allow you to move and dance without pain.

8. Plan break times : In your schedule, include time to rest and recharge. These little breaks are vital if you are not to feel overwhelmed by events.

9. Accept that not everything is perfect Keep in mind that, despite your best efforts, little unforeseen things can happen. Acceptance is the key to enjoying your day without being dominated by the details.

10. Smile and have fun Remember that this is a celebration of your love and union. Surround yourself with loved ones, let the day take its course, and above all, have fun.


By taking these steps, you can ensure that your wedding day is as stress-free as possible. This allows you to stay focused on what's really important: celebrating your union surrounded by your loved ones.


Coordinating the big day is an essential part of planning a successful wedding. By planning ahead, surrounding themselves with a supportive team and remaining flexible, brides-to-be can minimize pre-wedding stress. Remember, it's your special daySo relax, breathe deeply and make the most of it.

Because being well surrounded is the key to success, don't hesitate to contact our team of wedding-planners for further information.


Project manager for over 10 years, including 4 years abroad, entrepreneurial mom and passionate about events, I'm here to help you coordinate your big day and organize your entire wedding.

As a representative of the Shades Waves franchise in the Nouvelle-Aquitaine region, and as the architect of your dreams, my team and I will be at your service to help you realize your project.

As an expert in organization, my experience, professionalism and attention to detail will be our watchwords in assisting you.

Together, we create the unique.

There's nothing so beautiful as a well-adjusted, peaceful marriage... Pierre Charron


I'm Joëlle, born in Beirut and having lived in Rio de Janeiro, the love of weddings and the charm of nature have always attracted me.
Passionate about Provence and the wonders of southern France, I moved to Marseille.

Coming from a paramedical background, my work as a nurse has given me a solid grounding in organization, dedication and attention to detail.
It has also enabled me to develop the listening skills that are essential in both my professional and personal life.

After training as an event and wedding planner in Aix-en-Provence, it is with great pleasure and passion that I will design and organize your big day. Together, we'll create unforgettable moments that will stay with you forever.

Whether you want a timeless Parisian wedding, a romantic Provencal wedding or a unique wedding in a heavenly location, I'll be at your side to help you design the wedding that suits you, with elegance and chic à la française.

I look forward to meeting you!


After a 15-year career in Paris in the events industry and a move to be closer to her family in the South-East of France near the Gulf of Saint Tropez, Vanessa Roussel, created the Shades Waves agency in 2016, passionate about her job, dynamic and motivated to take up every challenge that organizing a wedding represents.

Always listening to her customers, ready to innovate, curious about life, she enjoys discussing the projects entrusted to her with future brides and grooms, to get to know you better and suggest the best scenography to suit you and create emotion.

A perfectionist at heart, she will organize your wedding or corporate event as if it were her own, with method and rigor, meticulousness and good humor, always planning the smallest detail.


My name is Florence and I accompany future brides and grooms from the conception to the coordination of their wedding. Weddings have always been a dream of mine!
So, in 2019, I'm training to become a wedding planner and event project manager at the Jaëlys school in Aix-en-Provence.
Since 2020, as a private event planner, I've had the honor of helping couples organize and coordinate their weddings.
I specialize in elegant, romantic and refined weddings, for a French-speaking clientele looking to get married in Provence. A native of Aix-en-Provence, I've made the South-East my playground.
From Provence and its vineyards, to the Côte d'Azur and its seaside resorts, to the snow-capped mountains of the Alps, I'll accompany you wherever your love takes you.
My watchwords are: patience, kindness, calm, organization, discretion and respect.
I draw my inspiration from literature, beautiful things and the charm of the old.
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I'm Bilitis, mother of an adorable little girl and entrepreneur. I have the pleasure of living on the Côte d'Azur, near Toulon, in the South of France. Before obtaining my wedding planner diploma, I trained at EFMM, which I obtained in 2018.
I'd been organizing private events for several years before turning to my profession.
My greatest pleasure? Creating unique, innovative and exciting experiences that reflect my customers' image. My aim is to help my customers organize unforgettable, festive events.
I bring a dynamic, innovative and organized perspective to every event. My love of planning and attention to detail are sure to create the perfect ambiance for your special day.
I'll be there to support you with the tools you need to ensure that "organization" rhymes with "tranquility and serenity".